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Originally Posted by Darlene159
Kind of like the majority of this thread? 
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What do you expect? The majority of your decisions limit the function of this forum and bother people. You have an earned reputation for restricting all interesting forms of discussion, so of course the forums will be exciting if you do not limit interesting types of discussion.
Are you really so surprised? Have you actually looked at some of the decisions you have made, and reasonings behind them? Do you think people will tolerate this constantly alluding Unixmad as the supporter of your decisions while trumping any use of rules without feeling some relief when you take a vacation?
Your moderatorship is doing nothing but hurting your image in the community. By being so stringent and demanding every thread to be perfectly moderated, you are earning the chagrin of the other community members. No other moderator was like this, and they were accepted as a part of the community and the forums were in a pretty fair state. You, however, are outside of the community now. This is because you do things to restrict the community, and only restrict the community. You do not even contribute to it, other than the number of threads closed/deleted/snipped.
I don't mean to offend you, but can you really expect people to smile and nod while you destroy their threads? Is it worth moderating these forums to the point where you are erasing the community, so that in the end, there are no people left to moderate? Your "vigilance", or "radicalism", depending on who you speak to, is causing nothing but unrest in the balance of the forums. You are causing more harm than good, so why are you still doing it? Are you really doing this for the community? If not, then for whom are you moderating? To what end?
Sure, Unixmad hired you, but why are you going to sacrifice your own image for him? To give back to the community? The community hates what you are doing. You are not paid to do this. Have you thought about how this is actually affecting you on a personal level on Graal? It seems as though your situation is absolutely miserable, with no gain and no point in doing what you're doing.
A good moderator does not seperate his or herself from the community. Look at Spark and Kamuii, and even Kaimetsu. They are/were very much a part of the community, and rather than only engaging in moderation action, they participate(d) in the discussions held (even some controversial ones, like homosexuality).
I like you as a person. I think that you are a good person, and I never want to make you feel like I don't think you are a good person. It makes me sick when I see people bash you on a personal level, and I'm sorry if I have made jokes or comments in the past about you. I'm not doing this because I hate you, or dislike you. I wish you the best, but I don't think that what you are doing is good for you, me, or the rest of the people here.
I think maybe you should look at what you're doing, and examine the reasons why you are doing it. Let's get beyond the hurt feelings, and the anger/emotions on both sides of this argument, and look at reality and what is really happening. Though I won't presume a friendship between us: from one friend to another, you really should consider what you're doing to yourself and the people around you.
I don't want to necessarily suggest you quit, but I want you to know that if you get more relaxed or if you do quit, I'll not carry my opinions from now into the future. The Graal community can be forgiving, and you can still rejoin it if you want.