Samurai RPing, getting better, or worse?

[Kaiser2]

Not realyl a poll, but a statement, and I want your opinions on this.
First, Vahn kills Taharu(who was on tag), Vahn was off tag.
Then, Vahn kills Taharu(still on tag), but now on tag (or Taharu killed him before this, I'm not 100% sure.)
Then, Vahn and Taharu are at each other's throats, for a while.
Afterward, Taharu (now an ex-friend.) Tries to critical me when he thinks I'm AFK, and then attacks me, killing me when I'm off guard.

Why did Taharu attack me? He claims it's nothing personal, that he's just annoyed with Zormite, but why does Taharu have to fight back with fists and not words? Why attack me instead of explaining the situation to me or Zen first and letting us take action in reaction to what a Zormite member has done? Truly, this is just making things worse for our relations with Samurai. If a member of another kingdom has any thoughts, opinions, or worries, why attack us? why not ask us questions? I understand that Taharu was following RP rules after Vahn attacked him on tag and he fought back, but why drag someone else (me) into this battle? It's just making it worse for our kingdoms...