A staff member shouldn't take another staff member PKing them as a hostile gesture. I've never assumed that the "no pking staff" rule applied to other staff, because it's usualy just for fun (since staff can't pk players they turn to each other.) I hate PKing, I hate being PKed, but if Birdbird would have PKed me, I would have just sent him a PM asking him to stop nicely because I don't enjoy it. Why did you feel the need to confront him and accuse him of breaking rules and such? I'm not saying Birdbird was right, but if you would have reacted the way you did and I were in Birdbirds possition I would have gotten upset aswell.
Disputes like this shouldn't be brought out into the open. Reading your post it basicaily sounds like "OMG! BIRDBIRD IS CORRUPT! HE NEEDS TO BE CANNED STEFAN!!!", in reality it's more like "I accused Birdbird of being corrupt, and told someone else to hack him." Did Birdbird even see the hack message? Who cares, but even if he has seen it, how would he know you were joking after you blew up at him?
I think Birdbird has been arround long enogh to prove himself. He's human, humans are imperfect beings. This just sounds like you envy his power from what I've read here (I could be wrong, but this is what you make it sound like.) and I would can you just based on that.
You need to think about your words and actions before you act them. How will the other person respond? How will he react? Text doesn't have toning like our voices do; "I'm gonna hack you!" and "I'm gonna hack you!" are identical in text, but can have completely diffrent meanings when spoken different ways.
My view, this was all a missunderstanding, you probably would have eaisly been able to avoid it all with a bit of 'tact', but the manner in which you reacted pretty much was commiting suicide.
Sorry.
Urizen